2018-02-16 – What being a Dom is about- a submissive’s perspective

fortheluvofdoms:

So, I have done quite a bit of reading, researching, and tumbling and I don’t see a lot of pieces written about what being a Dominant is about from a submissive’s perspective. The topic has weighed pretty heavily on my mind for some time now, and so I decided I would write my own piece. None of this is state fact and it is all very arguably opinion. I am writing this as a reminder to myself of what I want and need in a Dom, but also as a collection of things that I see, read, and hear over time. I am a little/submissive/pet, therefore some of these things might not be so important to one version of a Top as it would be another (Daddy vs. Dom).  If you don’t like it, please don’t send me hate and what not, just don’t reblog. However, if you do enjoy it feel free to reblog and add your own edits underneath. Here goes nothing…

  1. Being a Dom is about knowing when to be selfish and selfless
  2. Being a Dom is about being a keeper of promise and of peace
  3. Being a Dom is about being able to know when to be calculated and when to be spontaneous
  4. Being a Dom is about being a leader but knowing when to follow
  5. Being a Dom is about being educated and educating
  6. Being a Dom is about self gratification and self sacrafice
  7. Being a Dom is about being stern and being loving
  8. Being a Dom is about standing your ground while holding someone else’s footing
  9. Being a Dom is about being responsible and relatable
  10. Being a Dom is about being reasonable and rational
  11. Being a Dom is about knowing how and when to control
  12. Being a Dom is about knowing how and when to lose control
  13. Being a Dom is about being tender but strong
  14. Being a Dom is about knowing the difference between strength and arrogance
  15. Being a Dom is about knowing how to control yourself before you try to control others
  16. Being a Dom is about knowing how to be a gentleman and a lover
  17. Being a Dom is about knowing how to be a friend and an authority figure
  18. Being a Dom is about knowing how to love yourself so you can love another
  19. Being a Dom is about always putting safety first
  20. Being a Dom is about learning more about yourself while exploring another
  21. Being a Dom is about being actively involved in your own evolution and the evolution of your submissive
  22. Being a Dom is about remember that your submissive is a human too
  23. Being a Dom is about being a safe haven with the excitement and attraction of danger
  24. Being a Dom is about being multifaceted and multifunctional
  25. Being a Dom is about knowing which boundaries to respect and which to lightly step over
  26. Being a Dom is about being a communicator and an initiator
  27. Being a Dom is about being flexible and rigid
  28. Being a Dom is about knowing when to make rules and when to break them
  29. Being a Dom is about being an example
  30. Being a Dom is about seeing most of the possibilities, not just one
  31. Being a Dom is about understanding more than one side
  32. Being a Dom is about having power but not abusing it
  33. Being a Dom is about being a protect who knows when to ask for help
  34. Being a Dom is accepting failure as a learning opportunity, not a brick wall
  35. Being a Dom is about finding routine, but being creative
  36. Being a Dom is about being a teacher and a student
  37. Being a Dom is about patience and execution
  38. Being a Dom is about knowing when to speak and when not to
  39. Being a Dom is about understanding and recognizing a submissive’s struggles
  40. Being a Dom is about understanding and recognizing a Dom’s struggles
  41. Being a Dom is about trusting yourself and trusting your submissive
  42. Being a Dom is about being independent, but knowing when and how to depend on others
  43. Being a Dom is about treating submissives with the respect that a Dom requires
  44. Being a Dom is about appreciating differences, but being willing to work with them instead of around or against them
  45. Being a Dom is about compromise
  46. Being a Dom is about being forgiving
  47. Being a Dom is about problem solving
  48. Being a Dom is about feeling, thinking, and then doing
  49. Being a Dom is about balance
  50. But most of all being a Dom is about being a human, recognizing it, and acting as such

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